And yet another year is bidding farewell. It might sound very much cliched but time flies. It feels like we just ushered in 2012 and it's already crawling out paving way to 2013. It has been a wonderful year with a fair share of ups and downs. I have stopped making resolutions as i feel new year resolutions are overrated. One talks about resolutions only when the year begins and ends. Nobody bothers to keep track of your resolutions and some don't even remember their resolutions by the middle of the year. But looking back and cogitating about the events happened throughout the year definitely can groom you to face the coming year. We learn from our mistakes as they chisel us into better person. Just like 2011, 2012 has been a wonderful year for me. In 2011, i met my soul mate (i believe so :)) and in 2012 i got married to him. So 2012 will hold a special place in my life as marriage is a 'the' moment in one's life. So here goes my highlights of 2012 1. Marriage - Of course it has to be on the top. I got engaged this year too. So i'm no longer Miss Ramyah 2. Vacation to Kerala - I have always lusted over the houseboats in Kerala. So, i kidnapped let my husband kidnap me to Kerala for honeymoon :) 3. Professionally i was appointed as the Panel Head this year which was a good experience. 4. A very good friend@colleague was transferred back to her hometown leaving me quite lonely 5. The first year i handled SPM students single handedly- i'll be able to comment only when the result is announced. 6. The first year i applied for a transfer and failed obtaining it. 7. I had a quite heated argument with my superior regarding my transfer. 8. Experienced being a housewife for a week and i'm not complaining :) The only thing that has not changed over years is....me celebrating New Year all alone :( It's the third new year away from family. Hopefully, next year i can celebrate with my husband and then it would be the top highlight of 2013 :) HAPPY NEW YEAR PEOPLE!!
Disclaimer : The post you are about to read is from a girl
who is hopelessly in love. As such, this post may contain high dose of
cheesy lines and mushy –gushy expressions.
Another giant leap in my life. On 20th August I
got engaged to the man I love. Not many people were aware of my love life as I
decided to keep everything under wrap until the engagement. In fact a few of my
good friends relentlessly bugged me to reveal the mysterious man but no avail.
I had only one answer for them “ wait
till 20th August”. Finally,
the whole world (that’s exaggeration) witnessed me getting engaged. So, with
this I have changed my FB status to
‘engaged’ which means I am no longer subjected to random friend requests and
flirtatious messages. Most of my
colleagues were shocked to know that it is an arranged marriage for me as in
their own words “I don’t look like someone who would agree for arranged
marriage”. Don’t ask me why. I have
always believed in arranged marriages and I do now more than ever J
The arranged marriages nowadays are so different from the
one my parents had. While some people only saw their spouses on the wedding
day, my parents saw each other few times before getting married. But those were
just meetings where no conversation was allowed and you see each other from
100m distance (or further than that). I am lucky as I was given the fullest
liberty in my marriage decision. I had
my own terms and conditions which I followed rigidly though once in a while my
parents tried to talk me into approving the random guys they chose. The
foremost thing I hate about arranged marriage is serving coffee to random guys.
Thank God I had to do that only once in my life as the second guy who tried the
coffee is now my husband.
I believe in destiny and I strongly believe that that touch
of magic brought us together. Almost 4 years ago ( 2008) when I was still in
Sydney during my regular weekend call back to home, mum told me about a
proposal brought by her cousin. I was least interested in marriage that time so
I did not give a second thought and said no. Even my parents felt it was too
early to get me married off. Then, I forgot about it and came back home after
finishing my studies overseas. A year
later, I was in my final year when my mum’s cousin’s wife came to my house to
invite us to her daughter’s wedding.
While the ladies were catching up she again mentioned about the same
proposal and told us that the guy and his family would be attending the wedding
and we could meet them if we wanted to. Somehow whatever she said did not
register in my mind but we still attended the wedding the thoughts about the
guy did not flash in my mind at all.
Then, after few months my mum fell into the typical Indian
mothers’ category when she started looking hunting for a prospective groom. After numerous
proposals, the same proposal came again. Third time lucky I guess. Before I
could stop and breathe, I am already married. When I think about it again, we
both attended the same wedding and spent hours in the wedding but did not bump
into each other or even if we did, we did not ‘notice’ each other. Life is
indeed mysterious J
and keeps on throwing surprises at us J
Oh yeah did I mention this? During our first meeting I was
kind of pissed off at him. I had a small disagreement with my dad over the
so-called-meeting before I went to see him. Well,I was kind of nervous meeting
him and was a little bit hesitant and dad was upset that I was showing ‘the-disinterested-face’ and behaving like I was being forced into
marriage. So he raised his voice at me (he still says that he did not raise his
voice and it was the normal pitch). Being daddy’s girl, I can’t take it when my
dad is angry/disappointed or upset with me. So, tears started strolling down
and my parents were so shocked to see me weeping. Dad came to me wiped away the
tears and fed me ( the whole saga happened because I refused to take my lunch
as I was nervous). So, I went to meet him cursing silently that he made me cry
even before meeting him. And whatever happened after that will remain etched in
our memories J
Question 1: Do you have any pets ? Yes, i love puppies. There is nothing prettier than their innocent eyes :)
Question 2: Name three things that are physically close to you: My laptop, handphone and table
Question 3: What's the weather like right now ? It's drizzling there. It's a cozy night for a good sleep
Questions 4: Do you drive ? If so, have you crashed? Yes, i reversed into a car just few months after getting it. Luckily there wasn't any scratch.
Question 5: What time did you wake up this morning ? I had to work today. So woke up at 6.00 am :(
Question 6: When was the last time you showered ? i was just arguing with someone about the importance of bathing in the morning :) I had my shower at 7.30pm
Question 7: What was the last movie that you saw ? 3..n i cried buckets :(
Question 8: What does you last text message say? From DH and it's personal :)
Question 9: What is your ringtone ? I have two. For DH is Ippadi Mazhai Adithal and the other one is Crush by David Archuletta
Question 10: Have you ever been to a different country? Yeah i have been to Australia, New Zealand and India. Love travelling :)
Question 11: Do you like sushi? Like is a strong word. I don't mind having it once in a while
Question 12: Where do you buy your groceries? There is only 1 place here.. so it's not like i have a choice
13: Have you ever taken any medication to help you fall asleep faster? Never but i wish to try for the heck of it
Question 14: How many siblings do you have ? 2 crazy people with whom i have love-hate relationship
Question 15: Do you have a desktop computer or a laptop? Laptop ..one thing i cannot live without
Question 16: How old will you be turning on your next birthday? 26!
Question 17: Do you wear contacts or glasses ? glasses
Question 18: Do you colour your hair ? Nope
Question 19: Tell me something you are planing to do today: Finish this and go to bed :)
Question 20: When was the last time you cried? Last night when i was watching movie because the hero died :(
Question 21: What is your perfect pizza topping? chicken and pineapple
Question 22: Which do you prefer, hamburger or cheeseburger ? Cheeseburger because i need fat
Question 23: Have you ever had an all-nighter ? Yeah, during my university time. Never stayed up doing assignments or doing revisions though. I used to have all-night talk with my bestie.
Question 24: What is your eye colour ? Blue..i wish i could say that:p it's black
Question 25: Can you taste the difference between Pepsi and Coke? Pepsi is sweeter than Coke.
Found this accidentally and i'm glad i did! This has to be one of the sweetest picturisation of songs in Tamil. Everything looks so perfect in this clip and Surya's voice is chanceless :)
This morning something jolted me from sleep. It's July already! We are stepping into the second half of 2012. It sounds so cliched but time really flies. It seems like someone has pressed the fast forward button in my life (and i think i know the culprit :)) It feels like i just welcomed 2012 with a lot of dreams, anxiety and excitement and it's already ending (well, almost!) How i wish i can press the 'pause' button and enjoy everything around me before being sucked into the ever moving world. June was very sweet to me. And nothing bigger could have happened to me! Oh, yeah. I'm a married woman now and gosh! that makes me sound old! On 7th June i, legally became Mrs. A. The feelings is yet to sunk in. And the funny thing is i'm still referred as Ms Ramyah as i have not declared my Registration of Marriage (ROM) to the people around me. Only close friends and family members are aware of it since we are waiting for the traditional wedding in Dec before making it public :) So, i'm married but i'm still single and that's cool. And my close friends have been pestering me to change my fb status and i think it's gonna stay for at least another a month. As i went back to school with mehendi on my hands, my students came attacking me with endless questions. In fact few students came to me after class and asked, "teacher are you married or engaged?" and just like a celebrity, i answered " No comments" with a cheeky smile ;) And it's funny how people can always read my mind from my face as a student asked "Teacher, i think you have met someone. You are glowing and smiling all the time". Well, i have only 1 person to blame :)
Frankly, i went to sign 'the big deal' thinking, "it's just a signature. What's the big deal?" But the moment i entered the office and the officer started giving marriage advice i felt thousand butterflies in my stomach. It slowly dawned on me that i was getting married and my priorities were changing and it was such an emotional moment for me (mum told later that she got choked up too ).
Anyway, now i'm back to my single life and only when the husband calls i remember my status (and i tell The Husband to ALWAYS remember that he is MARRIED). I'm pretty sure July will disappear very fast and August will come crawling in. And that's when i'm getting engaged which is another big step (yeah, i know..i'm already married and i'm going to get engaged to my husband..may be i should just put my status as 'it's complicated')
Home wrecker. The name given to the third person in a marriage or relationship. Personally i have never bothered about these people as i have never met one. Whenever i see such characters in movies, i blame them entirely without a second thought for i believe destroying a relationship and betraying someone's trust is unforgivable. Till i met someone (H) recently...
Often we see the first wives as victims and second wives as the monsters. But i came to know from her about the ordeals she has to go because she married an already married guy. I have no right to judge her and thus i would not pass judgement. Of course she knew very well that the guy was married when she fell for him. Love is blind and i guess she thought that the first wife would eventually accept her which is a normal practice in their community.
However, things did not go as she expected and the first wife threw a fit upon learning her husband's second marriage to H. Of course she cannot be blamed as anyone in her position would have done the same. Had she married a 'real' guy i think she would not have suffered this much. The husband failed to stand up for her and promised the first wife that he would leave H which of course is a lie to divert his first wife. H got pregnant and again the first wife abused H and poor H had to go through the pregnancy all alone. The husband secretly visited his new born daughter just once that too after 3 months. It's been 5 years and H is still very much with him though he only visits her 2/3 months once without the knowledge of his wife. I felt very sad for her when she said she feels like a mistress and not a wife and her daughter sees the father as a stranger who visits them once in a blue moon. She also showed me the self-inflicted wounds that she has as a result of the innumerable arguments she had with the husband and the first wife.
I believe her biggest mistake was of course the man that she chose. He gave her false hopes and ruined her life. It is very saddening to see educated girls to make such mistakes in life. Life is too precious to be wasted on such spineless people. Of course love is blind but a little bit of common sense would not hurt.
3. If you could have any job, what would it be ? Lawyer
4.What are you most afraid of? FROG!!
5.What is the last movie you saw in a theater? Seriously..i don't remember.
6. What are four movies you would watch over and over again? 1. Alaipayuthe 2. A moment to Remember (Korean) 3. Just Like Heaven 4. Avatar 5. Tamil Padam
7. What are four places you have lived? 1. Ayer Tawar 2. Kuala Lumpur 3. Sydney 4. Kuala Rompin
8. What are four places you have been on Vacation 1. Melbourne 2. Whitsundays Islands (The best hitherto) 3. New Zealand 4. Chennai
9.What are the four places you would rather be right now? I can't be at four places at the same time. I wish i was home!
10.Favourite Ice-Cream? My new found love - Drumstick Almond Delight :)
11. What do you do most when you are bored? Either i day dream or answer silly questionnaires like this
12. What four still-airing TV shows do you love to watch? 1. Grey's Anatomy 2. Desperate Housewives 3. Saravanan- Meenakshi 4.CSI
I wish i could erase this week from my memory. What a crappy week! And it's just Wednesday. Few more days to go and i'm already dreading the coming days.
It's so difficult when you have to cover the blunders that people around you make. One of my panel members( Teacher A ) forgot (!) to set the exam paper and we came to know about the 'absence' of examination papers just 30 minutes before the exam! Everyone panicked and i had to handle the situation as the head of the panel. It's so difficult to handle scold your seniors and it's extra difficult for me as i don't know how to lash out at people. i remember informing her about her duty 3 weeks before the exam and yet she forgot. And when i questioned her she passed the blame on another teacher ( teacher B) and eventually admitted that she overlooked the matter. So we decided to resolve the matter by setting an instant paper and i thought that was it when Teacher B barged in all teary demanding apology from teacher A for unnecessarily dragging in her name. I was actually stunned at teachers behaving so kiddish. Few colleagues intervened and we managed to calm her down (well, that's what i thought). Then, i came to know this teacher went to see the Senior Assistant and cried and complained and did all that she could to get the whole school's attention. Though it was Teacher A's mistake to have dragged in Teacher B i still can't justify Teacher B's reaction to this matter. I wish she could have exhibited some maturity in this matter. I thought i'm very kiddish in handling emotions and these people prove me wrong :) One of my friends was surprised that i did not lash out or get emotional handling the situation. I guess she does not know that i CAN'T lash out at people and that's why i'm amused to see people screaming at each other in public. Anyways the whole school got to know that issue and everyone was drilling me with the same "what happened" dialogue whole day :(
When people around you make a blunder you can cover for them and support them and but when people who are close to you make blunder and it affects someone dear to you what do you do? That's the 'torn-in-between-two' dilemma. If you support one then indirectly you are hurting the other and there is no win-win situation here either. Truth hurts :( Godspeed
I'm having the sudden urge to write something but my brain is not co-operating. May be i'm mentally exhausted marking my students' atrocious writings. When i was a student i never detested examinations. I know many of my friends hated me for saying this, but i have always believed exams are fun. But when it stretches to 2nd/3rd week i admit i slightly get annoyed. In fact during my university days i have always preferred tests to assignments. The reason is simple..you can plagiarize your assignments but examinations show what you really have got inside there.
Fast forward few years, now i detest examinations. My sole reason is it's boring. As a language teacher my marking is tedious compared to other subjects and i have to mark roughly 300 over scripts. But that's not the issue here though at times it could be:) I hate invigilating examinations. There is nothing mundane than invigilating. I don't know if anyone enjoys it. Silence makes me feel awkward, very conscious. I feel uncomfortable when there is pin drop silence around me. Silence is golden, huh? I feel so restless and bored when the class is so silent. In fact, during my teaching and learning i always make sure my class is not silent by encouraging them to make some 'good' noise. While there are people who feel calm and able to do soul-searching in silence, it brings adverse effect to me. My room is never quiet. There is always music in the room and it's only quiet when i'm in dreamland. The first thing i do when i wake up in the morning is on my laptop and play music. It elevates one's mood, i think.
The only time i wish for silence is when my house owner sings karaoke :) I think he has fixed a CCTV in my room cause his timing is sooo prefect. He sings when i'm having my snooze :(
It's that time of the year again. Feb 14 is indeed a very special for some whereas for others it's just a day all silly people spend their money on bouquets, chocolates and cards in the name of love. No matter what, you cannot escape the love-in-the-air feelings with tv channels competing with each other airing all the love sagas, the mushy fb status, pink colour and heart-shaped gifts and of course the brochures from florists.
Personally, Valentine's Day has always been just another day for me. I have always believed that i am too practical and sensible to fall in love as falling in love means losing your sanity and it's too good to be true. My only memory of Valentine's Day is helping my good friend's boyfriend to deliver a bouquet of roses to her. He was miles away from her and he took a lot of trouble getting a florist to deliver a bouquet of roses to her with a little help from me. Though i was quite amazed at the affection, it also strengthened my belief that love makes you do silly, foolish things.
And today my situation is completely different that i shamelessly admit that falling in love is not that bad after all :) I remember reading this somewhere- " Only fools fall in love and i guess i am one of them-. I still believe love makes you do silly things but if it can keep you happy then what's wrong with it?
I came across this in a blog and i'm pretty sure it's a great read for those who are still undecided between crush and love
Top Ten Ways to Know You’re In Love
1. You’re in love if you think about them all of the time.
Well yah, I didn’t say that everything on this list would be profound or anything. This one is a no-brainer. If you love someone, they’re going to be in your thoughts all the time. In fact, you won’t be able to get them out of your head. Look at the rest of the indicators before coming to a conclusion, though, because this one could also mean that you’re just plain nuts.
2. You’re in love if everything reminds you of them.
Someone asks you to pass the ketchup and it reminds you of them. A flock of geese fly overhead and it reminds you of them. You get the picture. Oh, and for some reason, when you’re in love it seems like every new person you meet or see on TV or hear a story about has the same name as the person you’re in love with. I don’t know why that is, it just happens.
3. You’re in love if you care more about their safety and happiness than you do about your own.
For some weird and inexplicable reason, the whole “looking out for number one” thing you’ve been doing your whole life desolves away and gets replaced by an overwhelming urge to make sure that special person is as safe, comfortable and happy as possible. No, I’m serious. This totally because your number one priority. It’s kind of like getting super powers, in a way; you’d be amazed at what little-old-you is capable of when you’re trying to protect or provide for the one you love.
4. You’re in love if you start caring more about your own appearance.
Suddenly, without warning, you find yourself wanting to actually iron the wrinkled jeans that have been sitting in the dryer for the last three days before you wear them. If you’re about to see that person who you can’t get out of your mind, there suddenly seems to be a whole lot of reflective surfaces around to check yourself out in.
5. You’re in love if you’re actually interested in knowing more about them.
You can forget about the days when you went home from a date remembering absolutely nothing about the interests, career and dreams of the person you went out with. Finding out all about this fantastic person is your new favorite thing to do. If you could find a book detailing every minute detail of their life, you wouldn’t sleep or eat until you read every last paragraph.
6. You’re in love if you want to impress them.
You’ve always tried to be modest, but suddenly you feel like you’re a politician fighting to win the most important election ever in the history of the universe. You make sure that the faded newspaper article about you winning your third-grade spelling bee is left nonchalantly on the coffeetable when they come to visit. And you keep them as far as possible from that great aunt who loves to tell all of the embarrassing stories about you.
7. You’re in love if you aren’t as tight with your money or time anymore.
There was a time when the idea of shelling out your hard-earned money to buy someone dinner or a gift would have horrified you. Sure, you would buy an occasional round for your friends or bring grandma flowers on her birthday, but spending any more money than absolutely necessary just wasn’t going to happen. But now, no price seems too high as long as it makes that special someone happy.
8. You’re in love if hanging out with your friends just isn’t as appealing any more.
Remember when you and your friends made fun of the former buddy who ditched your gang to hang out with their new boyfriend or girlfriend? And when the thought of abandoning your friends to spend time with a member of the opposite sex seemed like sacrelige? Well you can try to deny it all you want, but you’re finding yourself constantly thinking about being with that special someone . . . even when you’re surrounded by your buddies!
9. You’re in love if commitment is actually starting to sound like something you could stand.
What, you commit to something that requires you to be faithful and responsible? Oh, the horror! What strange, evil spell has been cast upon you that would actually make you excited about a long-term relationship or even marriage with someone? Did someone slip something into your drink? Are you going insane? No. You’re probably in love, knucklehead.
10. You’re in love if you just aren’t noticing other members of the opposite sex.
Oh, the people you used to stare at are still there . . . you just aren’t noticing them anymore. For some bizarre reason, that special someone has suddenly become infinitely more attractive to you than any other person on the face of the planet. People who you used to think were good-looking suddenly pale in comparison to the one you’ve found yourself falling in love with.
1. What are you listening to right now? Ippadi Mazhai adithal 2. What was the last thing you ate? fish crackers 3. Last person you hugged? I think my mum and that was a week ago 4. How is the weather right now? Too hot 5. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? My brother 6. The first thing you notice about the opposite sex? Smile 7. Favorite type of food? Chinese/soups 8. Do you wear contacts? When i have ample of time and enormous level of patience..yes i do. 9. Favorite season? Spring!! 10. Have you ever cried over a love lost? never had a chance 11. Last movie you watched? Vettai 12. What books are you reading? I wish i had the time. I'm yet to touch Jan edition of Reader's Digest :( 13. Piercings? Already have and now thinking of getting nose piercings. But the request has been declined :( 14. What were you doing before filling this out? was talking to my brother 15. Favorite animal? puppy!!! 16. Favorite drink? mango lassi 17. Favorite flower? Of course Rose/jasmine 18. Who would you like to see right now? There are few people :) 19. What color are your bedroom walls? pink and purple :) 20. Do you like to travel by plane? Oh Yes!!! 21. If you could go to any place right now where would you go? Beach 22. Are you missing someone? Yes:) 23. Are you hiding something from someone right now? hmm...i'm hiding something from many people :) 24. What is the wallpaper on your cellphone? of course my picture... self-obsessed :) 25. Are you afraid of the dark? not really.. 26. 3 things you can't live without? things? my handphone, laptop and of course food! 27. Favorite songs? too many.. 28. What are you afraid of? FROG!! 29. Are you giver or a taker? I think i'm a giver 30. First thing you'll save in a fire? myself!! told you i'm self-obsessed :) 31.What are the things you always bring with you? purse and handphone 32.What did you want to be when you were a kid? lawyer 33. Three places you want to visit? Kerala, Paris and Mauritius 34. Your 3 weaknesses? compromise too much, gullible and easily stressed 35. Your 3 strengths? accommodating and ...??? I'm not a perfect person
I was aimlessly stalking people's fb when i came across a status update which said " I'm cute because i have dimple!". Voila! i got my inspiration!
Personally i love like looking at people with dimple. It somehow makes them look sooo..sweet regardless of their size, colour or shape. Dimples add cuteness and you can't resist but admiring the tiny dimples that appear when the person smiles. I'm pretty sure everyone has a list of 'corrections' that one wants to do to his/her face ( i have a long list :p) The first and foremost 'correction' that i have always wanted is dimple. I used to feel bad that i don't have dimple. And believe me i tried sucking in my cheeks while smiling and 'drilling' my cheeks with fingers every morning with the hope of getting dimple. Since the mission failed, i have started admiring people with dimples instead. These are the popular faces that i admire for their dimples.
Preity Zinta is more popular for her dimple than her acting prowess. Though after numerous plastic surgeries she looks ..duh..
Kirsten Dunst - I am no big fan of her but that dimple is 'wow'
Shahrukh khan - now he is looking like an uncle but i still admire that dimple :)
And THE WINNER is.... Jericho Rosales. I used to drool over him during my college days. I was browsing the channels when i suddenly caught his smile in a Tagalog serial on tv and i started following it till the end. I was soon joined by my sister and when i went to college i was pleasantly surprised to meet more of his fans who had all his movie/serial collection . And thanks to them, i have watched almost all of his works :)
